Subtle Child Abuse And The Abuse Of The Divine Will

This is to compliment the letter from Abandoned Father that carried the caption "Ensure dads get access to their kids, too", which was presented by The Star of Thursday, 11 September, 2008 and there were many before this and there will be many, many more to come unless this issue is addressed in a constructive manner. The realities and the sanctity of the issue must be confronted and in no uncertain terms be employed as a political tool.

Divorce is nothing new and it has been around since mankind existed. The human mind can find an infinite number of reasons as to why a couple divorced, just as it is so with death. Do we accept death, NO!. The first reaction is as always, how did he/she die. We just can’t accept that death is an act in the cycle of life. Death is separation and at every beat of our heart a separation is taking place in this Universe, weather we like it or not. Nothing is forever and change is the only constant in life and change is what we have to manage. Death is just one form of physical separation, the other is separation whilst living, which is also inevitable. It just happens, no matter what you do, say or think.

When either of this separation happens does it negate the relationship, no, only the physical contact is negated but the relationship will exist eternally for it is spiritual in nature. When two paths meet, they can never be broken. Friends will always be friends, sisters will always be sisters, brother and sister will always be brother and sister, father and mother will always be father and mother even though they are separated for whatever reason. No jurist or authority on this earth can negate the sanctity of any relationship. The emotional link that brought the two together can never ever be removed, no matter how ugly, bitter or painful the separation was. These are the aspects of life that appears to be beyond the comprehension of the human being and yet we are adamant in our ways of life.

Amongst all forms of separation death and divorce should be looked upon as a sacred act. For every death there is a sacred ritual and for every marriage there is a sacred ritual and divorce being a byproduct of a marriage should also be construed as a sacred act. In death life on this earth ends and in marriage a new life is born and the human race goes on to exist on this earth, all at a command of a Superior Being. The new life form that is born in a marriage cannot by whatever means be negated from the mother or the father or from the grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins, or friends. That relationship is eternal and it will be carried to the graves weather we like it or not.

Having presented the above, I now pose the question as to how custody of a child can be given to any one parent, whereas the Superior Being has commanded that Mr. A and Ms. B are to be the father and mother of that child and no matter what happens this status quo cannot ever be altered through out their lives, even though the jurists may so decide. At birth the Superior Being had given absolute divine custody to the parents and this must be upheld by all parties and parents are only custodians for the Superior Being. Even those who are criminals in our eyes or humans who are immoral are given the right of being parents by the Superior Being, so who are we to decide as to who is a better parent. In reality there is no such thing as a better parent. No parent out there is flawless and none of us human beings are any where near perfect, hence who are we to override what the Superior Being has ordained other that to enforce the will of the Superior Being.

The word Custody in the context of Child Custody is absolutely destructive and opens the doors to vengeful acts, acts that are against the very fiber of values taught for the highest good of all mankind by every religion. The word Custody should be replaced with the word Responsibility. No matter what happens all parents should be responsible for the children allotted to them and this order of life must be maintained at all costs. No man or woman should be allowed to abuse this Responsibility, for in the event that such an abuse occurs, it should be construed as an act of abuse to the child and absolute disregard and disrespect to Divinity which Divinity is the sole Custodian for the existence and survival of this universe.

Divinity, in its infinite wisdom has willed that the human life form on this earth has to have a father and a mother and each has been ordained their sole exclusive respective purpose for the highest good of the human race and no man weather jurist or otherwise should interfere with this, other than to enforce the Divine Will, which is Joint Parenting in totality.

The term, Child Custody Act and its spirit has to be amended to reflect the Divine Will and an appropriate term would be Child Responsibility Act and the spirit of it to ensure that both parents honor the responsibility of the Divine Will. Neither parent should be subjected to only visitation rights nor just a provider of financial support.

No matter what the circumstance, parenting has to be a wholesome act. Do we Malaysians have the will to change and be counted or do we wish to drift ambiguously the course of the colonial masters.


Sayyed AK
Malaysian