"Child Custody" Is A Demonic Term

Introduction

Thorough out the world custody of a child or children has always been a contentious issue. Though mankind has evolved and has progressed in many aspects of life, most of these progression has been regressive though one will very much like to believe it is otherwise. Sadly it is not.

The driving force of life has always been and continues to be to win and to win at any cost, no matter what the price is. At the end of the day this is a self destructive force, as it well may be, we are blinded to this or just do not want to come to terms with reality and the Sacred Laws of Life which is Universal.

Child custody is no different, when it comes to a situation where husband and wife have to separate, divorce, for reasons best know or unknown to them the child or children become the victim, tantamount to CHILD ABUSE. Which ever parent took the child or children at the moment of separation will hold on to them against the other parent. On the one hand the parent who is in possession of the child/children will go to all costs in order to be victorious and satisfy his or her ego rather than to consider the child/children interests and this is always falsely perceived to be in the best interests of the child/children. What a deception.

It is largely perceived universally that child/children are deprived of access to the father. There has been enough said in forums throughout the world and up to this moment there is no human solution to this situation. The legal system for better or worse always prefers to award custody to the mother, with minimal access to the father. The position taken is to play safe, I guess the premise being, mother is synonymous to child. We can’t deny that there is an aura to it. The question is, does this aura have a positive or negative influence on the child. Psychologists without doubt will say that it is a negative influence on the child and any one who is conscious to nature will undoubtedly agree that a child needs both parents for its well being and balanced development, albeit having to deal with the separation of the parents. Separation of parents in it’s self is devastating for the child/children, what more does the child/children have to endure with a custody battle between the parents, and are we to believe that the dominant parent is going to present the other parent in the positive light to the child/children.

In short the child will be going through torment at a very fragile age, leave alone having to deal with the facts of life, but having to deal with the fact that it’s security is being pulled from under it’s feet and the child is in a completely helpless and confused situation with fear setting in, the fear of losing the parents.


WHAT IS THE ALTERNATIVE?

The Alternative, firstly, it is to consider completely removing and eradicating the word "custody" and have it replaced with responsibility, in other words, "Child Custody" being replaced with "Child Responsibility". The word custody has the connotation "to claim" whereas the word responsibility has the connotation "to fulfill", hence the desire to claim or win does not come into existence.

Where children are concerned we all have a responsibility towards them no matter who we are, it is just not parents, who have this responsibility. It is a fallacy to believe that we own our children not to mention being arrogant for harboring such thoughts. Parents are just acting as custodians for the One and Only Supreme Being and their responsibility is not just to the child but to that Ultimate Being who rules over the Universe. This is the sanctity of parenthood, an act of worship and thanks giving for our very own existence. Why then should we not act in a manner to serve the highest good and in the interest of the child/children.

The separation of the parents is an act of destiny, but the willful deprivation of the child’s access to any one living parent is an act of tyranny, not just to the child but also to the Almighty One. A marriage can be undone, but parenthood extends to the grave. Parenthood just cannot be undone.

In view of this any right minded person who has a soul with an inkling of divinity should not and must not stand for any form of CHILD ABUSE. Hence, the will of the authorities and the people of this nation must come together to address this issue in an holistic manner.

The Child Custody Act, weather Shariah or Common Law, must be ammend or changed to Child Responsibility Act. This act shall embody the responsibilities of both parents jointly, in the up bringing of a child or children.

The proposed act shall encompass the following, ("child" herein means either singular or plural);
When the infant is suckling the child shall at all times be in the custody of the mother, until such time the child ceases suckling. During this period the father shall have free unhindered access to the child and he should take all responsibilities which is expected of a father in normal circumstances.

At the end of the suckling period thereon the child shall spend each alternate week with each parent and this shall continue until the full maturity of the child or as it would have been if the parents had not separated.

The Father shall at all times maintain his position as the Principal guardian of the child and shall at all times act reasonably with no malice intended to the Mother.
The Mother shall at all times maintain her position of motherhood and carry out such expectations that is deemed of such stature. The mother shall at no time act in a manner where malice is intended towards the father.

Both parents shall teach and inculcate such values as to honor, respect and love both parents and their respective families at all times to the child.
Each parent will be responsible for carrying out all relevant duties when the child is in their care during the week or other such times.

All expenses for the child shall be borne by the Father in the event that the mother is strictly a housewife. In the event the mother is a working mother during the time of marriage then all expenses shall be borne by both parents in proportion to their respective incomes, i.e. to say that if the mother’s income constitutes 40% of the fathers income, or vice versa, then that proportioned percentage shall be towards the child’s expenses.

In the event the mother re marries then she may opt to vary her access to the child if she deems it to be in the best interest of the child, hence meaning that the child will be more in the care of the father. However this shall not absolve her of her financial responsibility towards the child as set forth in the prior paragraph.

In the event the mother or father abandons the matrimonial home and moves to another town then the child shall reside with the parent who is the resident of the matrimonial home. Henceforth, not disrupting the activities and curriculum of the child. However the child shall not be deprived of reasonable access or communication with the non resident parent. Their financial responsibilities shall at all time remain intact.

Under all and any circumstance the child should be encouraged to maintain an outstanding relationship and communication with both parent.

Both parent must at all time communicate with each other and keep each other informed at all times matters pertaining to the well being and development of the child. There should be no compromise in this respect.

Tribunal

As always there can be disputes in any given situation and where a dispute cannot be resolved amicably between the parents then such matters may be brought to a tribunal for a amicable solution.

The tribunal shall at all times comprise of three persons made up of both genders and of any religion. The preferred age for such arbiters shall be 60 years and above and their service will be voluntary in nature. However they may be paid a daily sitting allowance to cover their basic expenses.

A pool of arbiters of impeccable character and wisdom should be sought and maintained as foundation arbiters.

The arbiters role shall be one of counseling and providing guidance towards a solution that is in the best interest of the child. At no time shall the arbiters take the role of a Judge.

The parents will have to represent themselves at such arbitration and they may be assisted either by a family member or any other person of their choice. At no time should any solicitor be present at such arbitration.

We are the highest form of creation in this Universe and it is incumbent on all parties to live up to the highest good and in the best interest of the child at all times. Without this child, life will not exicist and don't forget you were a child once.